Episode 107: You Won’t Always Feel: Inspired Advice To My Past Self
In this episode, Alisha is sharing advice she’d give to her past self, talking about resistance and the surprising reasons women don’t invest in coaching.
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Solo Episode with Alisha
Didn’t publish a podcast last week because there was too much noise in the world with the election results looming
Been doing this work for 3.5 years
Thought about what I would say to the person that I was that was dreaming of doing this work that I’ve been doing now.
I would tell her the 2016 woman that I was, I’d tell her “You have no idea how hard the road ahead is going to be, but stay true to your intuition above all else”
The journey into entrepreneurship, nobody has it figured out. No one has a road map into the work you want to be doing.
Are you taking time to ground, to listen to yourself, to tap into your intuition?
Are you taking time to pause and think through what you want and why you want it?
The word coaching is problematic for me. I’m really a transitions coach
Helping clients change mindset
I’m not sitting on the sidelines clapping, (I might do some of that) but I’m asking hard questions
I love crafting an experience for women
I would tell the me of 2016, it’s a new type of work and business, there is no model for it and those of us that are doing it are making it up as we go. I was asking for advice from men who didn’t know what I was doing.
I want the me of 2016 to know that I shouldn’t have been looking outside of myself for answers
Shout out to Aaron LeBeaur of LeBeauer physical therapy. He understood the model that I was trying to create.
I would not take advice from others that weren’t trying to create what I was trying to create
Take Vitamin D!
Get your Dr. Appointments in and do what they say.
One of my talents is to keep working even when you’re not inspired. Keep going, your work matters
One of my assets and strongest talents is to keep working even when I’m not inspired. Keep foraging forward
You have to be hungry for your business and side hustle. You can make it, but it will not be easy, it will not be a cake walk, you do have to be dedicated and disciplined.
If it were easy everyone would be doing it.
It is not going to be easy
The work that I’m doing now, I LOVE IT! I love creating community and facilitating community. I love the courses I’ve been putting together. I love doing this work. I am doing what I’m supposed to be doing, but there are so many days I don’t want to work and I am not inspired but I keep going anyway.
There are no shortcuts to getting what you want
Sometime you just have to do the work.
Anything worth doing is on the other side of hard work.
Resistance is a signal that you’re doing something worth doing. Resistance only comes around things that matter.
Resistance doesn’t mean don’t do it, consistency matters.
I’m only still here in my business because I’m willing to feel defeated and down and keep working and keep moving forward.
It’s not easy.
If it’s important keep putting in the work, consistency matters.
One of my favorite pieces of the work I do is one on one coaching with women.
One on one coaching is the place where I see the most light bulbs going off. It’s the work that I see the most powerful lasting effect on the clients I’m working with. But one on one is not where the majority of clients come from even though I have strong testimonials from women I’ve worked with.
One of my super powers is knowing how to ask the right questions that can spark something for a client.
When I started my business, many people pointed out to me that the research shows women are significantly less likely than men to invest in coaching.
Just because the road is hard doesn’t mean that we aren’t supposed to be doing it.
If someone has a propensity towards growth, why wouldn’t they want to take the opportunities.
Coaching is a huge financial investment, it’s expensive because you’re paying for coaches’ trainings.
You’ll value the coaching more if you have skin in the game. It makes sure you treat the crucible of time with your coach as unique so that will be treated differently.
You’re afraid you’re going to make this big financial investment, and nothing will change.
You’re afraid it’s not the right time. That’s a myth, it never feels like the right time.
No one else is going to create space in our lives, if we want something we have to go for it.
We have to deliberately carve out the space and the time to do this work. Intentionally create space to make it happen.
Anything worth doing has resistance. We have resistance to growth.
We fear that we’re going to have to put in some work and change.
If you choose to stay a caterpillar you are in the process of dying, you are not in the process of growing.
We have to go through the mush to grow.
In coaching there is always a place with a client where it feels horrible.
Are you going to choose to tackle the hard thing?
It’s not always clear what the outcome in coaching will be