Tony Robbins famously says “ People will do more to avoid pain than they will to gain pleasure”. If you’re thinking of leaving a job, a relationship, a situation, a habit that isn’t suiting you to try something new and foreign, I can guarantee that you will never actually feel ready. When you sit in the place of knowing you need to leave but not leaving or knowing you need to take a risk and not leaping you are sitting in the seat of actively working to avoid pain instead of actively working to grant yourself pleasure.

One of the things I have the hardest time with in my industry as a coach is hearing fellow coaches market their work by saying “this experience will transform you” or “this experience will be life-changing”. I have created courses and programs and experiences that people have called transformational or groups that have changed lives for the better, but in my opinion that is not the goal of my work at all, and marketing it in that way in my opinion is harmful.

A mistake I’ve made in the past was thinking I was an “all or nothing person”. I was all in or not in at all.

Sometimes google and iphoto remind us of our past selves, like this pic from 2010, a momentary glimmer of the person I was popped up. Often on the Y&A Podcast, I’ll ask guests “if you could go back and give your past self-advice what advice would you tell her? This is what I would tell past me...

One of the things I talk with my clients about often is Legacy. When you leave this earth in your physical form, what legacy, what impact do you want to know you left behind? If we wait until retirement to think about this question it’s probably almost too late